Ok, so it's been awhile since I've written a post for my blog. But there's been a few things that have gone on while I've been away. My last post was October 2019. Since then here are some of the things that have gone on:
November
December
January
February
March
April
May
Some good stuff, some hard stuff, and some just plain bizarre stuff!
Throughout all this I was struggling with two things: my weight and my attitude.
I gained quite a bit of weight last year. I wasn't working out consistently. I had a lot of extra stressors on my plate. Husband doing an Ironman, getting a house ready to sell, packing, youngest daughter graduating, some unexpected house remolding (leaky faucet caused major water damage), graduation party, moving into new house, taking daughter to college. I really thought 2019 was the tough year and I would regroup for 2020 and do better. Ha!
I really struggled with turning 50. Not for the usual reasons. I'm actually completely fine with being 50. But when I started running ten years ago my weight was super slow coming off. When I started writing this blog seven years ago I had decided that my journey wasn't a sprint, it was a marathon. So my goal was to be Fit and Fabulous by Fifty. I gave myself permission to have my process be a slow one and my long range goal was to be at the weight I wanted by the time I was 50.
Then 50 arrives and my weight is slowly creeping back up to scary and I'm not working out consistently. I'm fighting depression on many levels and I don't feel Fit & Fabulous. I feel Fat & Frumpy. Not anywhere close to where I thought I would be at this point.
Not going to lie. I'm pretty disappointed in myself for letting it happen. There are lots of reasons, lots of excuses but the bottom line is that I know what it takes to at least keep things from moving in the wrong direction and I let it happen again.
To say I've been spending the last six months working on an attitude adjustment is putting it mildly. With such a big bad attitude, it's taken some big adjustments.
I'm still working on things but kind of feel like I've taken some steps in the right direction.
One of the things that has been hard is that I have been very discouraged. I'm not where I want to be or where I thought I would be. When I do a work out I'm slow and I'm back to where I started in a lot of areas. It's easy to get discouraged. But I realized a few months ago that I was comparing myself again, which has been a constant issue for me.
This time I was comparing myself to...myself!
I was discouraged because I used to be better and now I'm not where I was.
I was discouraged because I used to be faster, stronger, whatever else.
One day I was swimming and I was struggling with a workout plan that Coach had for me and I wanted to quit. It was hard and I was discouraged because I used to be able to do it and do it faster. Now I was slow again and wasn't even sure I could do it.
Coach and I have had many discussions about how words matter and how they can shape our mindset and our attitude. I have had many similar discussions with my students. (Pretty sure coaching and teaching are basically the same thing. lol) So I'm swimming along and the word discouraged keeps popping in my head and I start thinking about what can I put in place of that word that would be positive and helpful.
Suddenly it was there.
Determined.
Right there in the pool, with a workout that I was really struggling with, I became determined to get it done. To do all the intervals and parts and pieces that coach laid out for me to the best of my ability on that day.
It was slow.
It wasn't pretty.
I even snorted water a few times.
But I did the entire workout from start to finish just as my coach laid out.
Because I was determined.
I could have quit because I was discouraged.
Instead I got determined and the result was way better.
Determined meant that when I finished I didn't focus on how it could have been better but instead focused on how proud I was for not giving up.
That was the beginning of the slow turn in the attitude.
Next step was tackling the weight issue.
For me, a lot of that is my mind set and oh boy I am having a terrible time getting that focused on thinking healthy instead of emotionally eating. (There's been a few things to emotionally eat about lately, added onto all of last years stressors.)
I decided that I was going to really get focused on eating healthy and getting my workouts done consistently at the beginning of May. I think I decided this about the time we learned that we wouldn't be back at school and we needed to start up Distance Learning. This gave me some time to mentally gear up for the switch and also gave me some time to get through the start of up of my new normal for my job. Too many changes at once just set me up for epic failure. But getting things rolling at least gave me a fighting chance to feel better about where I'm at by the time we go to Hawaii in October.
We ended up with an opportunity to work with a Nutritionist for seven days with our Pure Endurance Team. He focuses on plant based meals and does that with a focus on how to make that work for athletes. This started on Monday, April 27th. Great timing!
It was a good week! I learned a lot, got the chance to try some new things and got to see a new way of looking at food. Don't know that I will go completely meat free quite yet, but it could happen eventually. ;-)
This past week I was also determined to do all my scheduled workouts to the best of my abilities. I focused on being proud of myself for getting them done and not worrying about the speed, duration, etc.
I tracked all my food on MyFitnessPal as well. The nutritionist wasn't about calories and such but I know it helps me keep my self more aware of how much I'm eating and keeps me accountable for what goes in my mouth.
I figure I need to use ALL the tools in the tool box right now.
The third thing in my attitude adjustment has been about my thoughts on "starting over". In the past, in this blog even, I have been frustrated when I have had to start over. There has been a hiccup, there has been a change, there has been something that makes me feel like I am starting back at step one. Looking back it's kind of funny because right now, with the weight I'm at, I'm literally the closest I've been to starting over compared to all those other times.
Joe and I went and did an Open Water Swim a couple of weeks ago in a local quarry lake. While swimming I was doing some thinking about starting over and I had a realization. (You would think I would spend more time thinking about my form and such while swimming. I think it's because swimming frees my mind up because I'm only focusing on swimming. Other things that I've been percolating on for awhile all seem to come together and pop to the surface when I swim. I think other people get that when they meditate or do yoga. For me it's when I'm swimming. Weird but then so am I. lol)
Back to that idea that words matter.
Starting over sounds like I am beginning a new journey each time.
The truth is there is only one journey in life and I get to choose how I take that journey.
My journey may not be going as I planned or had envisioned. I'm not where I saw myself being when I turned 50.
But I'm not starting over.
I'm changing direction.
I'm deciding that I don't like the direction my journey is taking me and I'm doing some course correction to get back to the path I want to be on.
Doesn't that sound better?
Course Correction.
I know there will be valley's of darkness, mountains that seem impossible to climb, and times that I get lost along the way.
But I also know that I'm stronger than I think I am and I will figure it out....eventually.
I can be kind of slow to figure things out at times but I get there eventually.
So my three things I'm focusing on right now are:
There will be tears along the way (it is me after all) but I 100% know there will also be adventures, laughter and memories.
Nine years ago on May 1st I did my first half marathon.
Good reminder that I can be determined, make course corrections and have a healthy mindset.
I've done it before, I will do it again.
November
- I turned 50! Hard to believe, I know!
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| 5.0 mile hike with Josh & Wendi. With tiara and sash in honor of my birthday. lol |
December
- My husband then turned 50 the very next month. Equally hard to believe.
- Christmas came and I got to love on all three of our kids, but not long enough with any of them.
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| I love these three humans so much it hurts. Missing two of the like crazy right now! |
- I had my first colonoscopy. That was an adventure. Getting older is great. 😆
January
- 30th Anniversary!!!-LOVE my hubby. Can't believe we have been married that long! Anniversary trip to Kona, Hawaii planned for October to volunteer at the Ironman World Championships. So exciting!
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| Adventures with Joe. Best friend for 31.5 years, hubby and best friend for 30 years. |
- Begin the process of helping my dad and step-mom get their house ready to sell AND help them move into a retirement home.
February
- Disneyland with our son and his friends. It was their trip and Taylor invited us to tag along. How cool is that?
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| Shirts say "Since 1990" on the back. They were a hit at Disneyland! |
March
- School was closed for the rest of the month and my last day in class was March 12. I didn't know this when I went to bed. Woke up on Friday the 13th to a whole new world.
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| Calendar hasn't changed since then. Makes me so sad! |
- Daughter came home early from college because they closed her campus and everything went online.
- Schools for sure closed until April 28
- Stay Home, Stay Safe orders were made in Oregon (fancy way of saying we are in quarantine.)
- State Parks closed and Spring Break camping trip was cancelled.
April
- Announcement was made on April 8 by our governor that school was cancelled for the remainder of the year and Distance Learning was to begin on April 13th.
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| I was helping hand out Chromebooks when the official announcement was made about school. |
- Five days to coordinate with all Language Arts teachers in the district to coordinate and develop the curriculum for the rest of the school year.
- April 13th-Let the Distance Learning begin!
May
- May the 4th be with you!
Some good stuff, some hard stuff, and some just plain bizarre stuff!
Throughout all this I was struggling with two things: my weight and my attitude.
I gained quite a bit of weight last year. I wasn't working out consistently. I had a lot of extra stressors on my plate. Husband doing an Ironman, getting a house ready to sell, packing, youngest daughter graduating, some unexpected house remolding (leaky faucet caused major water damage), graduation party, moving into new house, taking daughter to college. I really thought 2019 was the tough year and I would regroup for 2020 and do better. Ha!
I really struggled with turning 50. Not for the usual reasons. I'm actually completely fine with being 50. But when I started running ten years ago my weight was super slow coming off. When I started writing this blog seven years ago I had decided that my journey wasn't a sprint, it was a marathon. So my goal was to be Fit and Fabulous by Fifty. I gave myself permission to have my process be a slow one and my long range goal was to be at the weight I wanted by the time I was 50.
Then 50 arrives and my weight is slowly creeping back up to scary and I'm not working out consistently. I'm fighting depression on many levels and I don't feel Fit & Fabulous. I feel Fat & Frumpy. Not anywhere close to where I thought I would be at this point.
Not going to lie. I'm pretty disappointed in myself for letting it happen. There are lots of reasons, lots of excuses but the bottom line is that I know what it takes to at least keep things from moving in the wrong direction and I let it happen again.
To say I've been spending the last six months working on an attitude adjustment is putting it mildly. With such a big bad attitude, it's taken some big adjustments.
I'm still working on things but kind of feel like I've taken some steps in the right direction.
One of the things that has been hard is that I have been very discouraged. I'm not where I want to be or where I thought I would be. When I do a work out I'm slow and I'm back to where I started in a lot of areas. It's easy to get discouraged. But I realized a few months ago that I was comparing myself again, which has been a constant issue for me.
This time I was comparing myself to...myself!
I was discouraged because I used to be better and now I'm not where I was.
I was discouraged because I used to be faster, stronger, whatever else.
One day I was swimming and I was struggling with a workout plan that Coach had for me and I wanted to quit. It was hard and I was discouraged because I used to be able to do it and do it faster. Now I was slow again and wasn't even sure I could do it.
Coach and I have had many discussions about how words matter and how they can shape our mindset and our attitude. I have had many similar discussions with my students. (Pretty sure coaching and teaching are basically the same thing. lol) So I'm swimming along and the word discouraged keeps popping in my head and I start thinking about what can I put in place of that word that would be positive and helpful.
Suddenly it was there.
Determined.
Right there in the pool, with a workout that I was really struggling with, I became determined to get it done. To do all the intervals and parts and pieces that coach laid out for me to the best of my ability on that day.
It was slow.
It wasn't pretty.
I even snorted water a few times.
But I did the entire workout from start to finish just as my coach laid out.
Because I was determined.
I could have quit because I was discouraged.
Instead I got determined and the result was way better.
Determined meant that when I finished I didn't focus on how it could have been better but instead focused on how proud I was for not giving up.
That was the beginning of the slow turn in the attitude.
Next step was tackling the weight issue.
For me, a lot of that is my mind set and oh boy I am having a terrible time getting that focused on thinking healthy instead of emotionally eating. (There's been a few things to emotionally eat about lately, added onto all of last years stressors.)
I decided that I was going to really get focused on eating healthy and getting my workouts done consistently at the beginning of May. I think I decided this about the time we learned that we wouldn't be back at school and we needed to start up Distance Learning. This gave me some time to mentally gear up for the switch and also gave me some time to get through the start of up of my new normal for my job. Too many changes at once just set me up for epic failure. But getting things rolling at least gave me a fighting chance to feel better about where I'm at by the time we go to Hawaii in October.
We ended up with an opportunity to work with a Nutritionist for seven days with our Pure Endurance Team. He focuses on plant based meals and does that with a focus on how to make that work for athletes. This started on Monday, April 27th. Great timing!
It was a good week! I learned a lot, got the chance to try some new things and got to see a new way of looking at food. Don't know that I will go completely meat free quite yet, but it could happen eventually. ;-)
This past week I was also determined to do all my scheduled workouts to the best of my abilities. I focused on being proud of myself for getting them done and not worrying about the speed, duration, etc.
I tracked all my food on MyFitnessPal as well. The nutritionist wasn't about calories and such but I know it helps me keep my self more aware of how much I'm eating and keeps me accountable for what goes in my mouth.
I figure I need to use ALL the tools in the tool box right now.
The third thing in my attitude adjustment has been about my thoughts on "starting over". In the past, in this blog even, I have been frustrated when I have had to start over. There has been a hiccup, there has been a change, there has been something that makes me feel like I am starting back at step one. Looking back it's kind of funny because right now, with the weight I'm at, I'm literally the closest I've been to starting over compared to all those other times.
Joe and I went and did an Open Water Swim a couple of weeks ago in a local quarry lake. While swimming I was doing some thinking about starting over and I had a realization. (You would think I would spend more time thinking about my form and such while swimming. I think it's because swimming frees my mind up because I'm only focusing on swimming. Other things that I've been percolating on for awhile all seem to come together and pop to the surface when I swim. I think other people get that when they meditate or do yoga. For me it's when I'm swimming. Weird but then so am I. lol)
Back to that idea that words matter.
Starting over sounds like I am beginning a new journey each time.
The truth is there is only one journey in life and I get to choose how I take that journey.
My journey may not be going as I planned or had envisioned. I'm not where I saw myself being when I turned 50.
But I'm not starting over.
I'm changing direction.
I'm deciding that I don't like the direction my journey is taking me and I'm doing some course correction to get back to the path I want to be on.
Doesn't that sound better?
Course Correction.
I know there will be valley's of darkness, mountains that seem impossible to climb, and times that I get lost along the way.
But I also know that I'm stronger than I think I am and I will figure it out....eventually.
I can be kind of slow to figure things out at times but I get there eventually.
So my three things I'm focusing on right now are:
- Determination not discouragement.
- Healthy mindset around food and exercise.
- Course Correction not starting over.
There will be tears along the way (it is me after all) but I 100% know there will also be adventures, laughter and memories.
Nine years ago on May 1st I did my first half marathon.
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| Facebook memories are great (and sometimes hard!) |
Good reminder that I can be determined, make course corrections and have a healthy mindset.
I've done it before, I will do it again.
Wonderful thoughts on your fitness journey. Your involvement in endurance sports has always amazed me, but I get it in terms of the goals you had for 50. I got my 2nd degree black belt at 49 and I'm now the heaviest I've ever been thanks to injuries, quarantine coping food, and a lack of discipline. NOT helpful when I want to test for that third degree next year and know how grueling it'll be. My only thought about comparing yourself to where you were years ago is... that was years ago. The body takes longer to heal and less time to fatigue/irritate the joints, etc. Be diligent, but be kind to your body! There are absolutely times to push through and finish X, Y, or Z, and there are times when you adjust the goals for long-term success with the changing realities of aging.
ReplyDeleteYou're a flipping superstar, Lisa! SO PROUD OF YOU!