I had parent/teacher conferences this week.
I always get a little nervous about conferences. There is always the chance of a parent that is confrontational or placing the blame on me rather than the student.
I come away from conferences exhausted.
I also come away from conferences with a renewed sense of what is important to me as a teacher.
Relationships matter.
I have only been a teacher for eight years. This is the beginning of my ninth year. That is a good chunk of time but most teachers that are my age have been teaching for 20 plus years.
I get several reminders every year during conferences. First, parents or grandparents or whoever is raising the student all care about their child. They may not parent the way I would, and they may not have the skills that I have but all of them love the child and want what is best for them. Even if they don't have the healthiest ways of showing it.
I feel a big part of conferences is making sure that the parental units know that we are on the same team. We both want what's best for their kiddo. If we can be on the same page, then the student is going to do so much better.
Again, relationships matter. Not just between the student and the teacher, but also between the teacher and the parental units.
I had some pretty incredible conferences. Some that make me smile, some that make me want to cry and a few that make me so glad that I put in the time to make the connection with a student. When you have a grandmother in tears because her grandson struggled all year as a freshman but is doing well as a sophomore AND his teachers are connecting with him. She said she could tell that a lot of his teachers were "getting" him and she was so thankful. I get to be a part of that! Not only that, I'm not the only one! That says a lot about our school and how hard the teachers work at building relationships with their students. So many connections made and so many students that have made the switch from tolerating their crazy Language Arts teacher to maybe, just a little bit, buying into some of the things she is telling them.
The grades aren't as important as being understood. The grades aren't as important as making a student feel valued. The grades aren't as important as making sure a student knows they are missed when they are gone.
The funny thing is, when all those things happen, the grades get better.
You know why?
Relationships matter!
That is the number one reason that I worked so hard to become a teacher.
This also works for more aspects of my life than just teaching.
The relationship between my husband and myself makes it so that we can support and encourage each other in our goals, whether they be race goals or job goals or just the goal of getting the dishwasher unloaded and dinner ready after work.
The relationship between my children and myself, especially as they become adults is amazing! How did we manage to help such amazing people to be hard-working and kind adults? Because of the relationship!
The relationship between my coach and myself makes it so I can push myself to do more than I ever imagined or sometimes be pushed to do more than I thought I could.
The relationship between athletes and the different races we participate in. These races are put on by different people or groups and how we interact with them makes a huge impact on how we perceive the event and how we did on any particular day.
The relationship between friends. How we support each other and lift each other up in good times and in bad. The people that stick by you during the hard times and are still around to raise a toast during the fun times are the best. You know why?
Relationships matter!
Things have been a little off for me the last few weeks. Don't really know why. Don't feel like working out. Really, really tired. Kind of feeling blah.
This week I had Parent/Teacher conferences.
Today I had a group bike ride with a bunch of really amazing people.
Both reminded me that relationships matter.
So I will keep pushing forward and I will work my way through the blahs. I know I will come out the other side with some life lessons in my pocket and a little more strength to build on in the future.
I know this because...
Relationships matter!
I always get a little nervous about conferences. There is always the chance of a parent that is confrontational or placing the blame on me rather than the student.
I come away from conferences exhausted.
I also come away from conferences with a renewed sense of what is important to me as a teacher.
Relationships matter.
I have only been a teacher for eight years. This is the beginning of my ninth year. That is a good chunk of time but most teachers that are my age have been teaching for 20 plus years.
I get several reminders every year during conferences. First, parents or grandparents or whoever is raising the student all care about their child. They may not parent the way I would, and they may not have the skills that I have but all of them love the child and want what is best for them. Even if they don't have the healthiest ways of showing it.
I feel a big part of conferences is making sure that the parental units know that we are on the same team. We both want what's best for their kiddo. If we can be on the same page, then the student is going to do so much better.
Again, relationships matter. Not just between the student and the teacher, but also between the teacher and the parental units.
I had some pretty incredible conferences. Some that make me smile, some that make me want to cry and a few that make me so glad that I put in the time to make the connection with a student. When you have a grandmother in tears because her grandson struggled all year as a freshman but is doing well as a sophomore AND his teachers are connecting with him. She said she could tell that a lot of his teachers were "getting" him and she was so thankful. I get to be a part of that! Not only that, I'm not the only one! That says a lot about our school and how hard the teachers work at building relationships with their students. So many connections made and so many students that have made the switch from tolerating their crazy Language Arts teacher to maybe, just a little bit, buying into some of the things she is telling them.
The grades aren't as important as being understood. The grades aren't as important as making a student feel valued. The grades aren't as important as making sure a student knows they are missed when they are gone.
The funny thing is, when all those things happen, the grades get better.
You know why?
Relationships matter!
That is the number one reason that I worked so hard to become a teacher.
This also works for more aspects of my life than just teaching.
The relationship between my husband and myself makes it so that we can support and encourage each other in our goals, whether they be race goals or job goals or just the goal of getting the dishwasher unloaded and dinner ready after work.
The relationship between my children and myself, especially as they become adults is amazing! How did we manage to help such amazing people to be hard-working and kind adults? Because of the relationship!
The relationship between my coach and myself makes it so I can push myself to do more than I ever imagined or sometimes be pushed to do more than I thought I could.
The relationship between athletes and the different races we participate in. These races are put on by different people or groups and how we interact with them makes a huge impact on how we perceive the event and how we did on any particular day.
The relationship between friends. How we support each other and lift each other up in good times and in bad. The people that stick by you during the hard times and are still around to raise a toast during the fun times are the best. You know why?
Relationships matter!
Things have been a little off for me the last few weeks. Don't really know why. Don't feel like working out. Really, really tired. Kind of feeling blah.
This week I had Parent/Teacher conferences.
Today I had a group bike ride with a bunch of really amazing people.
Both reminded me that relationships matter.
So I will keep pushing forward and I will work my way through the blahs. I know I will come out the other side with some life lessons in my pocket and a little more strength to build on in the future.
I know this because...
Relationships matter!
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